Intro
“We pray for the big things and forget to give thanks for the ordinary, small (and yet really not small) gifts.”
Dietrich Bonhoeffer
My facebook feed is scattered with friends and family who have dedicated an update of thankfulness for everyday in November. The political rants are becoming less and less while the thanks for family, friends, health are increasing. I appreciate their thankfulness but then quickly return to my own state of longing leaving me feeling dissatisfied.
Instead of feeling thankful for my home I lament it’s size. The sun shines and yet I focus on the cold. My body is eager, warm and alive and I concentrate on the slight tinge of a sore throat that is forming. The pantry is stocked and the fridge is filled with fresh food but I moan over having to cook another meal.
Thankfulness is as much a habit as brushing your teeth or making a cup of coffee in the morning. It’s about shifting your focus to the things that you do have rather than longing for what is not yet yours. In the midst of thankfulness we see all we are unnecessarily given and joy overwhelms the dissatisfaction.
A small home becomes a warm home filled with joyful, healthy children. The cold weather turns to thoughts of brightly colored fall leaves and anticipation of snow and warming drinks. When the time comes for me to cook my family dinner I should be overwhelmed by the fact that I have a family to feed and there is food to cook with and a stove to prepare it on with electricity to heat the pan and clean water to wash my fresh vegetables – I could go on and on.



I’m writing this post while thinking this through and am peeling back the blinding scales as I write. These last few days I’ve successfully felt sorry for myself – overwhelmed with work, exhausted by the responsibilities of being a wife and a mother and blinded by dissatisfaction. I didn’t come to this space to write about thankfulness but I’m so glad I did as I can see now how selfish I’ve been and am so thankful to be aware.
Joy returns and reroutes me outward. With a focus on thankfulness rather than lamenting over what I want differently in my life the resulting joy presses me to love and serve which ultimately leads to satisfaction greater than any “want” could ever give.
I did indeed come here to tell you about our turkey and I’m so thankful for this space to share it with you all because you need to know about this turkey.
This year will mark the second in which we’ve made a boneless turkey. A quick call to the local market and a boneless turkey is ready for pickup the next day. The bones are then saved for stock and used to make a rich gravy or saved to make the traditional leftover turkey soup.
The advantage to a boneless turkey is that carving is simple and clean, the dark meat and white meat mingle in the roll creating a harmonious flavorful meat and the options for stuffing are endless and provide even more flavor which can sometimes be lacking in turkey.
The turkey that ceremoniously lands on our Thanksgiving table this year will be stuffed with an herby, sausage-laden stuffing dotted with dried cherries and toasted hazelnuts. I’m already feeling thankful for that day and for the opportunity to enjoy this turkey again.
What a great time of year to be reminded to exercise the habit of thankfulness.


I do like the idea of a turkey roulade, with tender, moist meat and herby stuffing. Being thankful IS a state of mind, and you’re post has definitely given me a moment’s pause to consider all my blessings.
I have never made turkey roulade. Surprising because I am a huge Ina fan! Will be trying this for sure. Thanks for sharing this beautiful post. I am so thankful to have you as a fellow food blogger in my blogosphere life! 🙂
This looks delicious! I also, make a sausage stuffing for Thanksgiving, but I do a traditional bird.
I often think the same way you are speaking of, where it seems as though you have so many things to be grateful for, you always seem to crave something more, something better. It is always a good feeling to be reminded that we are human, and that others share our thoughts, even those we are not so proud of. Your words give me, also, time to reflect and to remember to be thankful every day, for just living is something so wonderful, it deserves thanks alone.
this looks beautiful, i’m ready for thanksgiving already! this will be a special thanksgiving as i am thankful to have power, heat and hot water back after almost 2 weeks without post-hurricane sandy. i’m looking forward to going out and volunteering to helping the other victims.
this is fab! we make a similar stuffing with apples and dried cranberries. i usually butterfly my bird and de-bone the breast then mound it over the stuffing (julia a-z) i think i will give this roulade a go this thanksgiving!
This is so good for me to hear! I like to think that I am a naturally grateful person and that my writing reflects that, but lately I’ve tended toward complaining about the dark and the gloom and the busyness of life. Thanks for the reminder to be thankful.
Love this post, and can very much relate. That mental effort to go from this constant state of dissatisfaction to gratefulness is definitely worthwhile, but not always so easy to do. I find it so important to make myself to do it as a model to my young son too. I have also found that writing for the blog has helped me sort through thoughts this way… As for the recipe, I’m intrigued, I had never thought of a boneless turkey, like the idea of dark and white meats mingling! I’ll have to give it a try. Thanks so much.
What a beautiful turkey, and an even more beautiful reflection. You have given me a wonderful reminder to appreciate the blessings sitting right under my nose!
Love this recipe, and thanks for the remainder to be thankful. We never hear it enough!
Beautiful post. We so often complain about things that are actually blessings. But there is so much to be grateful for.
I’m thankful for this post – that stuffing looks amazing!
Isn’t the day you wake up out of your funk and realize how lucky you are just THE BEST? Happened to me last week, so glad to be back!
Audrey – YES!
Ashley. I am loving your posts more and more these last few months. Your voice of truth and light, coupled with gorgeous (!) photos of inspiring recipes (!), makes this place such a breath of fresh air. I’m thankful for you, my friend.
Shanna – Thank you. That, from you, means a lot.
it’s so nice when i follow a blog that teachs and inpires me so much!
It’s always a pleasure to visit your blog.
Thank you!
It’s funny, my husband and I have never been so poor as this fall – he has started graduate school, and the job I took did not give me the hours I’ve needed to support our household. Between regular bills and living costs, we’ve had unexpected car troubles and a massive vet bill to take care of. We have gone over a month without a paycheck, and it’s terrifying.
And yet in the darkest times so far…I mean, DARK: rolling pennies so I can go buy another lb. of flour to bake some bread. …we’ve felt truly grateful, for each other, for a roof over our heads, for our families and their empathy and support. We know if it got really grim we’d lave a network to lean on.
I’ve never had to plan meals this frugally (like, scrimping on onion in a recipe so I can have enough for the soup I’ll make tomorrow), but it makes me feel far more resourceful than I realized. Being in a dire situation that at least has some light at the end of the tunnel (I got a new job this morning! He gets a stipend in February!) gives me hope that we can turn this situation into a valuable learning experience.
So, so thankful.
Kelsi – Wow. Thank you so much for sharing. I’m humbled by your words and your willingness to share. We’ve had many tight financial times in our marriage but your perspective is inspiring. Thank you.
Love this post AND this turkey! I actually have this episode DVR’d so I can watch her make it! I need to try this boned turkey idea. I would totally try it this year, but new-fangled ideas don’t really fly with the in-laws, hah!
The Food Hound – I need to watch that! I’m sure Ina makes the tying look so easy. Love her.
That is the third Bonhoeffer quote I’ve come across today, what a great reminder about being thankful. And I am so happy to see all the thankfulness instead of political rants!
I have really been waffling over what to cook this year for Thanksgiving–cooking a whole bird is NOT exciting to me. At all. But this I could do and actually want to eat. So here’s my question, where did you get the turkey? I know you’re in the Seattle area as I am. I’ve called a couple places and no one will do it, so I figured I’d see where you got yours. Thanks!
Jody – Central Market and Ballard Market will do it. I’m surprised other places won’t. Silly people. Isn’t Bonhoeffer great? I started reading his biography recently. What a fascinating life. Thanks for the comment. I hope you find your turkey!
I, for one, am thankful you appear here, when and how it suits, when and how you squeak it in.
Blessings, Ashely.
xo,
Molly
Molly – Oh you and your beautiful words – thank you.
“Thankfulness is as much a habit as brushing your teeth or making a cup of coffee in the morning. ” Such a beautiful line and a wonderful post. Thanks so much for sharing!
You are so right about how we complain and bitch while others suffer on a daily basis. We must keep reminding ourselves to be thankful.
I’ve been looking for the perfect turkey recipe to prepare for thanksgiving thanks for this great idea!! xx. gigi. food and beauty blogger @ http://www.gigikkitchen.blogspot.com
while I can see myself making a gigantic mess trying to pull off a turkey like this, I am enamored with it. You have always been an example of someone who is aware of how hurtful our own selfishness is. We go in and out of phases of being aware to it, but are are always so humble in admitting you’ve lost track. Thanks for inspiring me. I too, will spend time to see how good I have it.
Your roulade is so elegant and rustic at the same time. Well done, it looks delicious.
Ashley, this looks positively amazing. The images, the recipe, your writing, it’s all beautiful. Thank you for sharing!
the quote is beautiful, as are the photos.
The lighting and mood in the first photo, stunning. <3
Vanessa – Thanks, friend. From you, who I admire greatly, that means a lot.
I love Turkey Roulade, started making them some time ago, hadn’t seen Ina’s, thanks for sharing it. Mine is similar with addition of apple to the stuffing, I also line the roulade with prosciutto slices, some pressed garlic parsley, salt & pepper. But whatever you use I can definitely say it all comes out delicious…and is always enjoyed by all! BTW-cooked drumsticks on the side for those who “need” them. Happy Thanksgiving!
We have made a version of this recipe by Ina a couple of times. My favorite part is the stuffing that falls to the bottom of the pan mixed with the caramelized pan juices. So savory and with a bit of sweet from the cherries.
Jana – YES! The best.
This looks mouth watering!
Love the idea of a turkey roulade. Your photographs are beautiful!